Forgiveness
Ho’ponopono…”I am so sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you”
Such powerful words & so freeing when we are able to say them. Even just saying it to ourselves shifts us to another state of being, it does not even need to be said to the person who hurt or harmed us.
Why do we even need to forgive? Because when we don’t it’s like drinking poison & expecting the other person to die.
Ultimately we don’t need to forgive if we really “get” the other person is just doing their best. And sometimes what they have done to us helps to make us stronger. When we are willing to look for the gift, there is always a quality we have gained from the pain.
Forgiveness is about setting ourselves free, to move on from the pain of the past. It is a selfish act. Most times it is not about letting the other person off the hook, but giving ourselves permission to move on. When we hold onto the pain, we stay in the situation that was so painful. It remains locked in our cellular memory.
By going back to the event & changing how we feel about the “wrong”, we change the way the body feels about the pain. We don’t know what is real & what is imagined. When we change the way we feel about the past, we change the past…or at least the memory of the past. When we are able to think about it differently it no longer has a hold over us. That is freedom.
What if what was done to us was unforgivable? Then we don’t forgive the behavior, we just forgive the soul of the person. If they knew better, they would have done it differently…especially our parents.
I would love to hear how forgiving someone has made difference to your life.
Here is my personal story….Our house was broken into, & the man who had broken into the house was seen by my domestic worker who alerted the guard, who in turn alerted the police & the thief was caught. I was called home to find the thief already in the police van. He said to me he was really hungry & much to the annoyance of the policeman I made him something to eat.
He was sentenced to 6 months in prison. I did some work with myself employing the techniques I use in my practice on forgiveness.
6 Months later I had a ring at the gate. The person on the other side said it was the man who had broken into my house. He had come to apologise. My husband & I landed up employing him on a part time basis until he found permanent employment.
Was it because of the forgiveness process I had done that he came to make amends….only the universe knows that for sure.
I like to think so.
Next forgiveness workshop
Sunday 30th January.
Call Lana 083 339 1641
Email lana@acker.co.za
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