Enneagram

The Enneagram is a systematic study of the personality. It explains human behavior in nine different personality types based on years of observation and thousands of personal interviews. Each of the nine types has their own specific way of interpreting the world around them, essential qualities, motivation for their behavior, and responses to handling life's stressors.

There is no right or wrong type, no one type is better than any of the other types. The beauty of the Enneagram is that when you begin to read about your type you will be amazed of how well it describes you. As you continue to read each type, you will come upon the less flattering yet very real "lower side" of each number.

Below is a free test you can take online to help determine your type.

http://www.personalityonline.com/tests/engine.html?testid=2 

Wings

Usually one has characteristics of one of the types that lie adjacent to one's own that are more prominent. This is called the wing. So someone who is a type 5, might have a 4 wing or a 6 wing. This may be abbreviated to "5w4" and "5w6". If one doesn't have a dominant wing, it is said that the wings are balanced

                    
Enneagram type descriptions

Type 1 - The Reformer
           

Perfectionists, responsible, fixated on improvement

Ones are essentially looking to make things better, as they think nothing is ever quite good enough. This makes them perfectionists who want to reform and improve themselves & the world.

Type 2 - The Helper  

              

Helpers who need to be needed

Twos essentially feel that they are worthy insofar as they are helpful to others. Love is their highest ideal. Selflessness is their duty. Giving to others is their reason for being. Involved, socially aware, usually extroverted, Twos are the type of people who remember everyone's birthday and who go the extra mile to help out a co-worker.

Type 3 - The Achiever  

       

Focused on the presentation of success, to attain validation Threes need to be validated in order to feel worthy; they pursue success and want to be admired. They are frequently hard working, competitive and are highly focused in the pursuit of their goals, whether their goal is to be the most successful salesman in the company or the "sexiest" woman in their social circle.

Type 4 - The Individualist   
   

Identity seekers, who feel unique and different

Fours build their identities around their perception of themselves as being somehow different or unique; they are thus self-consciously individualistic. They tend to see their difference from others as being both a gift and a curse - a gift, because it sets them apart from those they perceive as being somehow "common," and a curse, as it so often seems to separate them from the simpler forms of happiness that others so readily seem to enjoy. 

Type 5 - The Investigator 

    

Thinkers who tend to withdraw and observe

Fives essentially fear that they don't have enough inner strength to face life, so they tend to withdraw, to retreat into the safety and security of the mind where they can mentally prepare for their emergence into the world. Fives feel comfortable and at home in the realm of thought. They are generally intelligent, well read and thoughtful and they frequently become experts in the areas that capture their interest.

Type 6 - The Loyalist 

   

Conflicted between trust and distrust

Sixes essentially feel insecure, as though there is nothing quite steady enough to hold onto. At the core of the type Six personality is a kind of fear or anxiety. Sixes don't trust easily; they are often ambivalent about others, until the person has absolutely proven herself, at which point they are likely to respond with steadfast loyalty. 

Type 7 - The Enthusiast 

             

Pleasure seekers and planners, in search of distraction

Sevens are essentially concerned that their lives be an exciting adventure. They are future oriented, restless people who are generally convinced that something better is just around the corner. They are quick thinkers who have a great deal of energy and who make lots of plans. They tend to be extroverted, multi-talented, creative and open minded. 

Type 8 - The Challenger

    

Taking charge, because they don't want to be controlled

Eights are essentially unwilling to be controlled, either by others or by their circumstances; they fully intend to be masters of their fate. Eights are strong willed, decisive, practical, tough minded and energetic. They also tend to be domineering; their unwillingness to be controlled by others frequently manifests in the need to control others instead. 

Type 9 - The Peacemaker

Keeping peace and harmony

Nines essentially feel a need for peace and harmony. They tend to avoid conflict at all costs, whether it is internal or interpersonal. As the potential for conflict in life is virtually ubiquitous, the Nine's desire to avoid it generally results in some degree of withdrawal from life, and many Nines are, in fact, introverted. Other Nines lead more active, social lives, but nevertheless remain to some to degree "checked out," or not fully involved, as if to insulate themselves from threats to their peace of mind.

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Forgiveness

Forgiveness

Ho’ponopono…”I am so sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you”

Such powerful words & so freeing when we are able to say them. Even just saying it to ourselves shifts us to another state of being, it does not even need to be said to the person who hurt or harmed us.

Why do we even need to forgive? Because when we don’t it’s like drinking poison & expecting the other person to die.

Ultimately we don’t need to forgive if we really “get” the other person is just doing their best. And sometimes what they have done to us helps to make us stronger. When we are willing to look for the gift, there is always a quality we have gained from the pain.

Forgiveness is about setting ourselves free, to move on from the pain of the past. It is a selfish act. Most times it is not about letting the other person off the hook, but giving ourselves permission to move on. When we hold onto the pain, we stay in the situation that was so painful. It remains locked in our cellular memory.

By going back to the event & changing how we feel about the “wrong”, we change the way the body feels about the pain. We don’t know what is real & what is imagined. When we change the way we feel about the past, we change the past…or at least the memory of the past. When we are able to think about it differently it no longer has a hold over us. That is freedom.

What if what was done to us was unforgivable? Then we don’t forgive the behavior, we just forgive the soul of the person. If they knew better, they would have done it differently…especially our parents.

I would love to hear how forgiving someone has made difference to your life.

Here is my personal story….Our house was broken into, & the man who had broken into the house was seen by my domestic worker who alerted the guard, who in turn alerted the police & the thief was caught. I was called home to find the thief already in the police van. He said to me he was really hungry & much to the annoyance of the policeman I made him something to eat.

He was sentenced to 6 months in prison. I did some work with myself employing the techniques I use in my practice on forgiveness.

6 Months later I had a ring at the gate. The person on the other side said it was the man who had broken into my house. He had come to apologise. My husband & I landed up employing him on a part time basis until he found permanent employment.

Was it because of the forgiveness process I had done that he came to make amends….only the universe knows that for sure.

I like to think so.

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